Friday, July 28, 2006

Can You Reverse Soul Mate Energy?

Q: I understand that when soulmates meet very often one may pick up on the connection whilst the other dosn't or goes into denial. I've heard that the energy connection can be put into the spiritual reverse so the other mate gets more interactive. How would you encourage this spiritual reverse of the energies?

A: The first thing you need to look into is why it is that one soul mate feels the spiritual connection, but the other doesn’t. That is your key. I feel that when the love isn’t reciprocated, the one who is backing off is the one who has not come to terms with him or herself. In other words, there is still some baggage that the other is not letting go of which is preventing them from opening up their heart and feeling this soul mate energy. I feel that they do feel it, but for one reason or another, and because they still have some karma within themselves to work out, they put up a block. In most cases, they are putting up that block because of past hurts, although there are zillions of other reasons such as maybe they need space to find out who they are before they begin another relationship.

To reverse the energy connection would be to find a way to knock down that block, of course. I really don’t believe we have that power to do so because we are not that person and we have not gone through the same experiences they have that caused the block. Sure, we can be sympathetic and try all we can to help that person see it our way, but it’s not going to happen until it’s time for it to happen.

I have found that timing plays a huge part in whether soul mates are meant to be together at a particular time in history. I also feel that our life’s paths were already mapped out before we were born, so it wouldn’t be following either one’s life path to MAKE it happen and would, basically, screw up the scheme of things.

There was an interesting story I read about a man who believed he could turn a woman he had never met into his soul mate. He made the news and everything. Promoted the heck out of it.

The story goes he found the woman with whom he planned on doing this on an airplane. She balked at first, but then relented. Leaving her family and the life she once knew behind, she joined him and they began their relationship. It bombed eventually and she flew back to her homeland citing the relationship was more like an experiment, which it basically was, and didn’t feel natural.

I found the man’s email address and emailed him, telling him that soul mates cannot be “made,” and instead had to be born into it.

He didn’t take kindly to it and I suppose he was embarrassed the whole thing bombed.

In essence, I don’t believe that you can reverse the soul mate energies. If the timing isn’t right at this particular time, perhaps it will be right further down the road. You just can’t force the soul mate relationship. Let it happen on its own accord. It stands a better chance at succeeding.

Hope this helps! ;o)


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Remember that all soul mates play important parts in your lives and that no one particular soul mate is more important than the other for they all are meant to come into your life to help you reach your higher self. ;o)

Dorothy Thompson
Relationship Expert & Author


Saturday, July 15, 2006

New Soul Mate Message Board

The Soul Mate Queen's Magical World of Soul Mates now has a message board! If you have any questions about twin souls, companion soul mates or karmic soul mates, visit and post your question or comment. See you there!

Tuesday, July 11, 2006

Six Ways to Lose Your Soul Mate - NEW COLUMN!

Soul mates. The very phrase conjures up images of happily-ever-after and someone to lean on when things get tough. And then…reality check. You find yourself sitting home watching Blind Date with a boxful of tissues because your supposed soul mate ditched you for that co-worker you just knew was putting the moves on your one and only.

No one likes to be in this situation, but it’s happened to the best of us. As they say, some things are meant to be, but were there some things that could have been preventable? If you would like to know the six ways you can lose your soul mate and how you can avoid every single one of them, you can read my latest column at Soul Mate Queen. May all your soul mate dreams come true!

Sunday, July 09, 2006

Is He My Soul Mate?

Q: I have been with this guy for a long time now and I am positive that I am totally in love with him – not just lust love – and I don’t know how to tell if he is my soul mate and if he feels the same. How can I tell?

A: This is one of the most common questions that people ask me. I'm in love; but is it the real thing?

First of all, if you are in love with this person, he is your soul mate. Just as there are varying degrees of love, there are varying kinds of soul mates. Sounds to me like the companion soul mate relationship since you mention lust, too. All companion soul mates, unless they choose not to for various reasons, involve intimacy and/or love-making. This sounds to me like something beautiful you share with someone and I commend you on that!

Second, as with all companion soul mates, he has come into your life for a reason. Is it marriage? Is it to produce offspring? Who knows, but one thing is for sure, he is meant to be a part of your life. No two soul mates come together without a purpose. That would be silly, wouldn't it? That's how you can differentiate acquaintances from people with whom you share a soul mate bond.

It's common sense, though. If you are in love, you are in love. You feel it, it makes you happy and fulfilled and you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. A natural thing to happen to two people who are soul mates.

Now if, for example, for some ungodly reason, you two should part because of differences further down the road and then you come back to me and say, "Dorothy! How could you tell me a year ago (or so) that he was my soul mate when I never want to see his face again???"

Let's hope that does not happen to you, but it does happen.

Do you know what I would tell you? I would say, "When two people come together as soul mates, there is a purpose for them to do so, but when that purpose has been realized, the two may part but that is not because they weren't meant to become a part of each other's lives, but it's because their mission together has been accomplished. When this happens, the two begin to feel like they are drifting apart and they don't know what's going on. Well, what is going on is that their inner self is trying to tell them that there are other soul mates out there that they need in their life in order to be complete.

It's sad, really, but this is the nature of things especially if you are just starting out in life.

You need to go through necessary steps in order to be complete and it may take one, it may take several, soul mates to help you with this, but every last one of them that come into your life are important, and necessary.

My advice to you is to: Live, Love, Learn. Live to your highest expectations, love like there was no tomorrow and learn what each soul mate that enters into your life is meant to teach you about life, about yourself, and about why the two of you were brought together.

Once we do this, we are that much closer to finding Higher Self.

Hope this helps!

Love and Light, Dorothy

Dorothy Thompson
Author, Syndicated Relationship Columnist, Soul Mate Relationship Coach


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Monday, July 03, 2006

Can We Love From Afar?

Q: I have a question regarding a person in my life I believe is my true soul mate. We met nearly 2 years ago and our connection was more complete than either of us had experienced before. I have never been married, am the mother of a 14 year old son. When we met he was going thru a very nasty divorce. We were together and then for reasons due to his employment, he is a consultant, we have been apart. He is in Hyderabad since 10/04. We have kept in touch via email and have seen each other twice since he left. We both feel as if we are soul mates and openly share these emotions but I desire so much for him to be back in my life in a physical presence. I guess I am wondering how does one sustain loving so much from so far away and why did it happen to begin with? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

A: Thank you so much for your question!

Actually, your question is quite common. How do you sustain a relationship from afar and why did it happen in the first place?

I believe that this person who came into your life did so for a very important reason. The vibes are there...everything seems to be in synch, so why is it that he cannot be in my life physically and how do I get through this without losing my everloving mind?

Well, the secret is this. You and this man have touched on a spiritual level. You've already made physical contact, and that's a good start because the instant you meet is when you feel the spiritual connection. If it's not there at the beginning, it's not the true soul mate bond.

So, let's just say that the spiritual connection is in place. What do you do now?

The best advice I can give you is not to obsess.

Get involved in things you like to do or you're going to get yourself into a state that is not compatible with the soul mate experience. In other words, be happy within your present life.

By not obsessing over this, you'll accomplish two things.

One, you'll be doing something productive and this can only be positive towards your self-fulfillment, happiness and self-growth (no matter how old you are, you're still growing mentally).

And two, the soul mate in question will look to you in better light. Sure, he probably knows that he's missed, as you and he are on that same spiritual realm, but he will see a strong woman; a woman who can withstand being apart from him.

What will happen is that his psyche is going to do two things.

He's going to see you as someone who can withstand the pressures of life and can hold up her own end when faced with a challenge.

And, two, he's going to try even harder to find a way to be with you because he's not the subject of ALL your interests as you have become a productive, busy and happy woman.

See how that works?

Now, in time, if it's meant to be, it will happen. If everything is in place, both your and his psyches are in the right frame of mind and both of you are leading productive and happy lives on each of your ends, only positive results can occur.

However, if it does not happen, you have to look at why it is that caused the block. Is it out of your hands? Can he not come home because he is employed so far away and it's not possible?

Or, does the spiritual connection exist over time and space and bring two lovers who are meant to be in each other's lives together?

I'd love for you to keep in contact with me as I'd love to see what happens over time.

Hope this helps and if you have anymore questions, please feel free to ask. ;o)

Love and Light, Dorothy


Dorothy ThompsonAuthor, Syndicated Relationship Columnist, Soul Mate Relationship Coach


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