Sunday, July 09, 2006

Is He My Soul Mate?

Q: I have been with this guy for a long time now and I am positive that I am totally in love with him – not just lust love – and I don’t know how to tell if he is my soul mate and if he feels the same. How can I tell?

A: This is one of the most common questions that people ask me. I'm in love; but is it the real thing?

First of all, if you are in love with this person, he is your soul mate. Just as there are varying degrees of love, there are varying kinds of soul mates. Sounds to me like the companion soul mate relationship since you mention lust, too. All companion soul mates, unless they choose not to for various reasons, involve intimacy and/or love-making. This sounds to me like something beautiful you share with someone and I commend you on that!

Second, as with all companion soul mates, he has come into your life for a reason. Is it marriage? Is it to produce offspring? Who knows, but one thing is for sure, he is meant to be a part of your life. No two soul mates come together without a purpose. That would be silly, wouldn't it? That's how you can differentiate acquaintances from people with whom you share a soul mate bond.

It's common sense, though. If you are in love, you are in love. You feel it, it makes you happy and fulfilled and you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. A natural thing to happen to two people who are soul mates.

Now if, for example, for some ungodly reason, you two should part because of differences further down the road and then you come back to me and say, "Dorothy! How could you tell me a year ago (or so) that he was my soul mate when I never want to see his face again???"

Let's hope that does not happen to you, but it does happen.

Do you know what I would tell you? I would say, "When two people come together as soul mates, there is a purpose for them to do so, but when that purpose has been realized, the two may part but that is not because they weren't meant to become a part of each other's lives, but it's because their mission together has been accomplished. When this happens, the two begin to feel like they are drifting apart and they don't know what's going on. Well, what is going on is that their inner self is trying to tell them that there are other soul mates out there that they need in their life in order to be complete.

It's sad, really, but this is the nature of things especially if you are just starting out in life.

You need to go through necessary steps in order to be complete and it may take one, it may take several, soul mates to help you with this, but every last one of them that come into your life are important, and necessary.

My advice to you is to: Live, Love, Learn. Live to your highest expectations, love like there was no tomorrow and learn what each soul mate that enters into your life is meant to teach you about life, about yourself, and about why the two of you were brought together.

Once we do this, we are that much closer to finding Higher Self.

Hope this helps!

Love and Light, Dorothy

Dorothy Thompson
Author, Syndicated Relationship Columnist, Soul Mate Relationship Coach


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